It is suggested that our mind thinks 60,000-80,000 thoughts day and that about 80% of those thoughts are negative. There are continual tapes going through our minds—some of those loops can be damaging to us. Those “I’m not good enough; I’ll never have enough; nobody understands me, etc.” Those thoughts are habitual and are the results of our experience and beliefs and they have a significant impact on self-esteem.
According to Wayne Dyer in Excuses Begone: “old habits of thinking stick around, often for an entire lifetime, largely because you create internal reasons to reinforce and maintain them.” Don’t believe everything you think. Your thoughts have created neuropathways–freeways–but those neuropathways can be changed through intention. Be aware of what you are thinking and ask yourself, “Is it true? Where did that belief come from? Do I believe it now?”
Seren Kierkegaard, the famous theologist, stated, “Once you label me, you negate me.” If you want to change a thought or your own label, you can do that by observing what comes to mind and deciding how you want to change it. For instance, I have a problem with people’s names. I commonly use the excuse that, “I am not good with people’s names,” and as a result, I usually don’t actively engage in creating triggers, associations etc. that will help remind me. Triggers such as the person’s name rhyming with something else, associating the person’s name with someone famous …
Even though it seems like our minds are on automatic pilot, we can change that. Decide that you want to act on thoughts more intentionally and be discerning about the ones you believe. Pay special attention to those thoughts that are repetitive. Evaluate them by asking, “is it true? Where did that belief come from? and Do I believe it now?” Write those repetitive thoughts down. Make it your intention to create a new belief about yourself and surround yourself with resources and people that reinforce that belief. Once you get into the habit of doing this, your thoughts…and your life…will be on a new path.